The Agony of Being
Connected to Everything
in the Universe [what?]
by Andrew Boyd [who?]
jan '02 w.w.norton
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The nurturing power of dysfunctional families
Happy families are all alike; every
unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
It is important, if you grew up in a dysfunctional family, to take time to reflect on the competitive edge it has given you. People from happy, harmonious homes may feel healthy and well-adjusted, but they're fixed on one family model which they try to emulate the rest of their lives. If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, however, you may be deeply damaged, but you've acquired a broad repertoire of negative models to outgrow. As you go about your adult life, you should be thankful to your parents: they have given you the kind of education that happy children, through no fault of their own, never receive.
My parents taught me everything I need to unlearn.